Ambition, high expectations and standards, showing up for others, and self-reliance may be socially desirable but also contribute to over-functioning, burnout, harsh inner critic, imposter syndrome, validation-seeking, codependency, self-abandonment, avoidance, dissociation, isolation, compartmentalization, hypervigilance, and emotional dysregulation and over-regulation. Productivity becomes more disconnected from a sense of purpose, realizing our potential feels less fulfilling, and endless efforting has become exhausting.

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​Perhaps you can be rigid and controlling, judgmental and impatient, concerned with status and perceptions, feel both too much and not enough, feel less than or other, and chronically lonely. Complex Trauma (CPTSD) is an attachment or interpersonal wounding with common responses, some of which we value but can become extreme and problematic. ​My clients are also often seeking support around life stages and transitions, career issues, relationships, polyamory and non-monogamy, gender and sexuality, identity and intersectionality, and neurodivergence and socialization.

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You are very capable but you're worthy of receiving care too. Maybe love was conditional or you were frequently disappointed by others who were unable or unwilling to meet your needs. Seeking support is a sign of strength and you don't have to continue carrying it all yourself. Your presence is appreciated here, not your performance, and that may be the repair needed to shift from surviving to thriving! ​